Delayed ejaculation? Why it takes you longer and how to fix it with Irene Aterido

Do you feel like the climax never arrives? Are you worried about taking too long in your relationships? In the new episode of VivelaVita, we tackle a rarely discussed topic: delayed ejaculation and the difficulty in achieving male orgasm. With the help of expert Irene Aterido, a clinical sexologist, we analyze the causes and provide you with tools to regain control of your pleasure.

Watch the complete interview here:

What is delayed ejaculation and when is it a problem?

Irene explains that an occasional night should not worry us. The real problem appears when:

• You live with strong psychological frustration and impotence.
• You notice something anomalous repeatedly in your sexual life.
• Under the same conditions, partner, or usual fantasies, you cannot reach climax.
• You start "worrying" mentally about the situation.

Main causes of delayed ejaculation

Irene Aterido highlights three fundamental factors that are usually behind this issue:

• Chemical factors: The consumption of tobacco, alcohol, and illegal drugs.
• Common medications: Blood pressure medications (antihypertensives), antidepressants, or anxiolytics.
• Masturbation habits: Very intense, rapid, and repeated masturbation since adolescence that conditions the body to a stimulus difficult to replicate with a partner.
• Age myths: The belief that it is "normal" not to function well after 40 or 50 when, in reality, one can fully enjoy at any age.

Key differences between orgasm and ejaculation

Irene points out that, although we often associate them, they are different processes of the nervous system:

• It is possible to ejaculate without feeling pleasure: As occurs in some cases of premature ejaculation or physical injuries.
• It is possible to have an orgasm without ejaculating: A technical possibility that helps lighten the "goal" of seminal emission.
• The goal is not "to arrive": Unlinking both processes helps reduce fatigue and pressure during intercourse.

The role of psychology and performance anxiety

The mental component is, in most cases, the main factor. Irene points out that:

• Stress blocks pleasure: Biologically, to reach orgasm, we need to be relaxed. Work or personal stress prevents the nervous system from "slowing down" and enjoying.

• Distorted beliefs: Thinking that the man must be the sole author of the partner's pleasure or that he "must last long" to fulfill creates unbearable pressure.

• Spectator effect: Being more concerned with how you are doing than what you are feeling.

Tools and solutions in clinical sexology

Irene Aterido reminds us that everything has a solution with the right approach:

• Enhancing creams: A useful tool to gain sensory awareness and speed up the physical response.
• Brief therapy: Guided sessions to work on limiting thoughts and suggest practical exercises (without the need for nudity in consultations).
• Erotic Communication Workshop: A space for couples to update their rhythms and learn to talk about their desires without judgment.

Conclusion: pleasure goes beyond the climax

The main message from Irene Aterido is essential: separate ejaculation from orgasm and understand that pleasure should not be an obligation. When we stop obsessing over "fulfilling" or the times dictated by myths, we allow the nervous system to relax and enjoyment to arise naturally.

If you feel that stress or limiting beliefs are blocking your sexual life, Irene offers her "Erotic Communication Workshop", a tool specifically designed for couples to update their sexual script and regain shared joy.

Do you need professional help? You can contact Irene Aterido through her website: meduelelaregla, where she helps people of all ages to improve their sexual wellbeing and bring pleasure to those living with pain or chronic illnesses.