My first couple's toy

If you're not sure what you'll enjoy, start with an external, small and simple one: a bullet, a finger one, or one that rests on the palm. Either of you can use it on each other during foreplay or sex, and it doesn't need to fit any specific body. It doesn’t have to say "for couples": any vibrator can be a couple's toy.

Outside the bedroom and on a positive note: as something you both fancy trying together, not as something that's missing. Choosing it together helps a lot. A toy adds to what you already do; it doesn't replace anyone.

Those in the shape of a U or C have one part inside the vagina and another over the clitoris; vibrating rings are placed at the base of the penis. They make sense when you already know you want vibration during penetration. They depend more on how they fit each body and they sometimes move: if that happens, use it with your hand, it still works.

Choose a flexible one. Place it at the base of the penis, with a bit of lubricant to make it slide, and position the motor facing upwards to stimulate the clitoris during penetration. Remove it if you feel discomfort or tingling and don't leave it on for too long at a stretch.

If you'll be together, the toy's buttons or a remote: it's immediate and doesn't rely on the mobile. The app is great for long-distance play, and it's good for the toy to also work without it in case the connection fails.

Start with the lowest and gradually build up. To begin, it's more important for the minimum level to be gentle than the maximum power, and it helps if you can adjust the intensity up and down without having to go through all the modes. More modes don't necessarily make it better.

Wash it before and after use with lukewarm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner, as the manufacturer directs, and dry it well. If it moves from one person to another or from one area to another, wash it in between or put a new condom on each time. Silicone and waterproof ones are the easiest to clean.

Water-based: works with all toys and latex condoms. Oils ruin latex, and silicone lubricant can damage silicone toys.

It's normal for the first time to feel weird. Try a different intensity, another position, or let your partner take control, or leave it for another day without pressure. Talk about what you liked and what you didn't: that's already progress.

Yes. What decides it is not who you are, but what you want to stimulate and how: an external toy works for any body, a ring needs a penis, and U-shaped ones need a vagina. Each product description indicates which area it's intended for.

No. We send it in a plain box, no stickers, no shop name on the sender and nothing indicating what's inside. If you prefer, you can pay cash on delivery or pick it up at the courier's office.