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My first BDSM

First, the ability to stop.

Here, what matters is not how tight it is, but whether it can be released in a second. We've selected padded cuffs, blindfolds, tapes, and kits that open with a yank, with their material in plain sight. Everything is agreed upon in advance: safe word, limits, and how to stop.

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My first BDSM
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Ruba
Beginner LevelBlindfold

Ruba

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Why it's perfect for beginners

  • Adjustable
  • Satin touch

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Almost all products in this selection are beginner level.

The level indicates how much prior experience is needed, not the quality: we consider the size, intensity, and how easy it is to use. Those with the Medium level tag are for when you want to take it a step further.

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Still got questions?

Where do I start?

For the simplest: a blindfold or a band, some padded handcuffs or a bondage tape. Depriving sight or slightly restricting movement already changes the experience a lot. A beginner's kit brings together several pieces to try without spending much.

How do I talk about it with my partner?

Before and outside the bed. Share what piques your curiosity, what you'd like to try, and what you absolutely don't want. No surprises: in BDSM, everything is agreed upon beforehand.

What's a safeword?

A word that means "stop now", chosen before starting and not casually said during the game. Many couples use the traffic light system: green, we continue; yellow, slow down; red, stop. If someone cannot speak, also agree on a gesture.

Can handcuffs cause harm?

If they are too tight, yes. Choose padded or adjustable handcuffs and make sure there’s room for a finger between the wrist and the cuff. If the hands become cold, tingle, or change colour, release immediately. Always keep the key or release device within reach and never leave a person tied up alone.

Handcuffs with key, velcro or tape?

To start with, velcro or quick-release: they open in a second if needed. Metal ones with a key are more imposing and you need to keep the key handy at all times.

How about a gag?

Con dos condiciones: que se abra de un tirón y que acordéis un gesto antes de empezar, porque con ella puesta no se puede decir la palabra de seguridad. Por ejemplo, sujetar algo en la mano y soltarlo significa «paro». No dejéis sola a una persona con la mordaza puesta en ningún momento, y elegidla de silicona: se limpia mejor y deja respirar.

¿Qué no deberíamos probar al principio?

Nada que tenga que ver con la respiración: ni tapar la boca y la nariz, ni presionar el cuello, ni capuchas cerradas. No es cuestión de experiencia, es que el margen de error es demasiado pequeño. Tampoco nada que corte o marque la piel. Y si atáis con cuerda, tened unas tijeras de punta roma al alcance antes de empezar.

¿Y si queremos probar los azotes?

Empezad con la mano o con un plumero o una pala suave, siempre en zonas carnosas como los glúteos o los muslos. Evitad la zona de los riñones, la columna y las articulaciones. Id subiendo poco a poco y preguntad a menudo cómo va.

¿Hace falta experiencia?

No. Todos los productos de esta selección son de nivel iniciación. Más que técnica, el juego necesita confianza, comunicación y ganas de probar a vuestro ritmo.

¿Qué hacemos al terminar?

Dedicad un rato a cuidaros: un abrazo, agua, una manta. Después, comentad qué os ha gustado y qué cambiaríais la próxima vez. Esa conversación es parte del juego.

¿Cómo se limpian?

Depende del material: el cuero, con un paño húmedo y dejándolo secar al aire, sin mojarlo entero; el nailon y el satén, lavados a mano; la silicona y el metal, con agua y jabón. En cada ficha tienes el material.

Will it be obvious what I've bought when the package arrives?

No. We send it in a plain box, no stickers, no shop name on the sender and nothing indicating what's inside. If you prefer, you can pay cash on delivery or pick it up at the courier's office.

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